It's Over... What Have We Learned

The wedding was today. Everything went suprisingly well and without flaw. When I set up all of that audio equipment and flipped the switch, there was not a single thing wrong. In the audio business that is RARE! But I admit that I was caught off guard by emotion when Grace walked in with her dress on down the isle holding my dad's arm. I almost cried, but I had to sing right after that, so I decided not to. It was an amazing experience and Grace and Josh are finally one now. That's cool.

This whole thing really makes me think how much I have to learn about love. Just watching them get married made me realize that my priorities aren't exactly in order. At the same time it made me feel like I was old, but in retrospect, I still have a long time yet to go.

I talked to this guy yesterday who was playing piano at the wedding and his wife was singing. They were both pretty young, but they seemed to be that kind of couple that was clearly meant for eachother. I talked to the guy and asked him how he met his wife and sat back and listened. It's funny when you talk to a guy about stuff like that. Most of the time a guy is composed and tells the facts, but in this case it was different. His total expression changed from when we were discussing business. His face lit up as he told the story. It seemed like he was not in the room with me, but rather back in the day when she first told him that she loved him after he took the chance to tell her. It seems like God gives every man and woman who get married in His will this epic story of a relationship, and whether they realize the magnitude of their journey before or after they wed... it's still there. But I'm more or less seeking encouragement in my own journey, not a simplistic encouragement from people who don't know the extent of my present story, but the ones who I've talked to. Real encouragement with deep meaning much like what Godwin gave me in Africa. I've never had very much of that around here. Seems like it's easier to discourage relationships. Seems like when I find interest, the only thing anyone close to me can say is negative or hopeless, and I know they're just looking out for me, but you can convince someone that they've made a mistake even when no mistake exists. Take careful consideration in what you say. I think that is something that the persuer has to find on their own. That is why I encourage most of my friends when they are seeking a pure relationship. I have a very limited perspective most of the time. I might only know the guy or maybe just the girl. And if anyone knows, I know that when you love someone you don't care about the little annoying things they do. You don't even see it because it doesn't matter. Now big things are a definite problem. I would not encourage my friends to date a druggy hooker. But for instance, I have a friend who likes this girl who has this thing where she's... well she's just plain lousy at communication. Now his mom says that just because of that not to get involved. We, on the other hand, both realize that it's not because she's a jerk. She's just fragile and afriad of confrontation. If you were to analyze me a bit deeper than that, you'd find alot more dirt than just a fear of confrontation. So until something comes along to disprove that theory, then I say go for it. If it is of God it will work. If it's not, then it's not.

I'm willing to take on new burdons for the sake of love, and the man who isn't, who isn't willing to somewhat adapt; that man is also not willing to love. He is infatuated and focused on the short term.

Don't blow off situations because an external source with limited information tells you to, but look at the situation with a clear mind. Focus on God instead of men because you will never make an action that all men agree with, and thankfully it doesn't matter what men think. It only matters what God thinks, and God never changes. Peace and love.